You can take the teacher out of the city…

During my first week of training for the new job, my supervisor, Dena, showed me to my office, where I would be taking kids in groups to provide them with instructional support in math.

“I think you’ll find this is a pretty nice working space,” she said. “Here you’ll find all the unit and resource guides for our Investigations series—err…ummm…what are you looking for?”

“The closet,” I said. “I’ll need a place to lock up the math tiles, dice, fake coin money, geo shapes, base ten blocks, fractals, Legos, eraser heads and counters. These things are made to be airborne. They’ll disappear after the first two classes, and then we’ll find them all over the cafeteria floor.”

She laughed. “We’ve always kept them on these shelves, and it’s never been a problem. Now over here you’ll find all the important phone numbers…what are you doing?”

“Hiding the yardsticks, rulers, compasses, stapler, manual pencil sharpeners and fine-point markers. Weapons, you know.”

She stared for a few seconds and blinked. “I really don’t think it will be an issue. Now on this bulletin are our fire drill and Code Red procedures. In case of an emergency…is there another problem?”

“Yes. I’ve run out hiding places, and there’s nowhere to put the whiteout, glue sticks permanent and dry erase markers. It’s like an open display case for makeshift narcotics.”

“Look, if you’re really concerned about this, you can lock your room every time you leave it,” she said. “The key is here in the doorway.”

“YOU HANG THE KEY RIGHT IN THE DOORWAY? How do you know someone won’t take off with it and break in after school? There’s a Smart Board in here. An electric pencil sharpener. For God’s sake, I’ve got scientific calculators!”

An excerpt from an inner city teacher’s transition into the suburbs…it’s good to be home.

Fantasy conversation between me and my dog

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As part of my efforts in persuading Doug that we should get another dog, I have taken on the role as designated pooper scooper. As I scooped, shovel dragging behind me and bucket filled to the brim, the Bean looked on from a distance.

I put down my shovel narrowed my eyes at her. “Bean, look at the mess you made all over the yard. This is disgusting. There’s no need for it!”

She put her ears back and looked away.

“Come over here and look at this,” I demanded, pointing at a pile by my feet. “This is no!”

Slowly, she stood up and began to slink away.

As I continued scooping, I imagined that she could understand my words and respond to them. Here is the fantasy conversation I had with my dog:

“Hey, Bean. About this mess you’re making all over the lawn….”

“Oh, yeah. Sorry about that. I saw that you stepped in it the other day and ruined another pair of shoes. I’d reimburse you, but you know how it is with the economy and all.”

“Hey, don’t sweat it. I’m just wondering if in the future, maybe you can walk an extra twenty yards or so and go in the woods? No one really walks in there, and that way, no one will step in it.”

“Sure, I can do that. Is that all?”

“Well, there is one more thing. It’s the barking. When our neighbors walk by the house, and when we have visitors, and, well, every time a leaf flutters from a tree, you don’t need to tell us about it. You’re terrorizing the neighborhood, and you always seem to make a point of doing it during Anna’s naptime.”

“No barking. Got it.”

“But I still want you to bark at the bad guys,” I continued. “Those are generally people who sneak in the house in the middle of the night. You’ll know who they are if they’re wearing dark colors and throwing steaks at you. If you see one of them, you can do that Cujo impersonation you do for the mailman.”

“Bark at the bad guys…check. Anything else?”

“Yes. When I let you outside, try to stay out longer than two minutes before you ask to come back in. Likewise, stay in the house longer than two minutes before you ask to go back out.”

“Sure. Shall we shoot for, say, half-hour intervals?”

“How about an hour?”

“Done.”

“Just a couple more items…when you drink from your water bowl, try not to splash it all over the floor. It would be great if you could wipe your paws on the mat before you come in the house. And if you see something dead, don’t roll in it.”

“No problem! Hey, as along as we’re talking, those car rides are great and all, but I’m wondering if you can go easy on the brakes?”

“Oh, yeah. Sorry about your nose in the dashboard the other day.”

“And about the Max beef-flavored bits for seniors. I know what it says about a glossy coat and strong teeth, but it would be great if you could change it up a bit.”

“Don’t push your luck.”

“And who are you calling a senior, anyway? I’m barely a day over eight.”

“Seeing how you’re so young and fit, you need to start fetching things for me just like every other dog. Slippers, newspapers, the remote control, all the essentials. You need to start earning your keep around here. Understand?”

“Woof.”

Do you love them? Check on them.

Me and my "U.J." (Uncle Joe)

Me and my “U.J.” (Uncle Joe)

My uncle up and moved to Ohio some years back.  We were in touch once or twice a year, and the miles really distanced him from his family in every way.  He lived alone, but I always assumed he had close friends that kept him company…otherwise, why else would he be living there?

Every Christmas he called us, but this year he didn’t.  He was inconsistent and flighty, and we assumed forgetting to call us was just him being the way he was.  Then we went on with our busy lives.

Yesterday I found out the reason he didn’t call was because he died.  He had a heart attack in his apartment, and no one discovered him until his landlord checked on him two days ago.

For two months, he was gone, and no one even noticed.

I am posting this in hopes that whoever reads this will take a moment to think about each and every person in their family—particular those who live alone and keep to themselves.  If something happened to them, would they be accounted for?  How long would it take for someone to figure out something was wrong?

Never assume that someone who is alone has someone who checks in on them.  That person can be more alone than you ever imagined.

I debated whether to post this cause I don’t mean to bum you all out, but I am looking for any small way to make something constructive out of this tragedy.  My uncle was a good man, and although I sometimes resented him for choosing an isolated life, I loved him very much.  No one deserves that kind of ending.

RIP Uncle Joe…I will never forget about you again.